Finding Balance- The Art of Self Care

The physical world is so full of demands, it feels like balance is hard to find and even harder to maintain. Between work and commitments to family and friends, it’s easy to push your own personal needs aside. But you must learn to value your own Emotional and Mental health above everything else .

How do you remain balanced when your energy is being pulled in so many different directions??

This year juggling three jobs, multiple shows, and my own personal issues was a daily struggle. I learned that The more you  share your energy with everyone around you, the more people begin to want and expect your energy.  People are drawn to  and can even become dependent on your positive energy.

But what happens when you are burnt out?

Eventually, it becomes draining to constantly be the motivator, especially when your own emotional needs aren’t being fulfilled. After a while, it felt like I was giving my energy away to everyone else around me and there was none left for myself. I started to feel angry and resentful towards the people around me. They expected me to smile and laugh all day long,  but they had no Idea how frustrated and depressed I really felt. Some days felt like I was just playing a role for the sake of those around me.

In order to keep your peace of mind, you have to prioritize your own mental and emotional needs.   It’s ok to draw boundaries, it is ok to have time to yourself.

It is okay to not be ok. 

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Ego v. Spirit Balance

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When I’m connected to my Spirit, I feel at peace, full of faith, patience and positivity. When obstacles come, I can face them with a positive attitude… but there’s another voice battling inside me.

Ego-Physical, Fast paced, Stubborn,  Independent, Judgmental, Insecure, Anxious, Non-trusting

Spirit-Intuitive, slow moving, Connected, humble, Positive, Peaceful, Confident, Accepting, Trusting

In short, The Ego is self-destructive. Spirit is everything I want to be. I want to live free, not bound by my emotions- I want to live a happy, successful life full of positive, healthy relationships.  For me, Spiritual balance is as essential as water. It is a mindset, an attitude, and a lifestyle.

The balance between Ego and Spirit is the difference between a happy life and a miserable life. 

 

 

 

Spiritual Warrior

When your soul starts to feel weary, Remember it’s never been easy…And it never will be.

But you are a Spiritual Warrior. To get where you are, you had to fight for your Dreams, Your Identity, and your Sanity.

You must continue fighting for your Peace, for Your happiness, and for your Destiny.

Stay Alert and Keep a Sober Mind! Keep your 3rd eye open, There are snakes in the grass. Distractions are everywhere-Fatigue and stress will make you feel there is no hope. You must stay connected with your Spiritual Energy. Then you will know that it is possible to achieve all your Dreams.

Humble Yourself-Remaining Patient through the Process

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“Humble Yourself Under God’s Mighty Hand that He may lift you up in due time.” 1Pet.5:6

There’s a war raging inside my mind right now. I am not where I want to be. I want to be successful so badly I am telling myself to do whatever it takes, even if that means pushing past my limits until exhaustion….but the more I push myself, the more my mind and adrenaline kick in and tell me that I cannot rest or slow down. I’m getting to the point where I can’t sit still, my  mind is cluttered, I’m drinking more, and I have to force myself to rest at the end of the day. I’m moving so fast, that I’m making impulsive decisions rather than acting with peaceful clarity. I’m trying to do it all because it  feels like I’m not moving fast enough…Anxiety mode

I’m anxious because I’m 25 and I know that this is my time to move into my next level. My spirit knows to be patient and to Trust God as I  Trust my Journey. Deep down I know that I cannot rush the process.  I need to give myself the time I need to prepare. But at the same time, I am running out of patience.  I’m trying to increase the speed of my life so that I don’t have time to focus on my reality,  which is… I’m still here living in my hometown with my family, working a full time job that I don’t belong in, still struggling to pay bills and save money from month to month. I feel alone. Even though I am not the only struggling artist here, I wish there were more of us. I wish there were more professional training opportunities for me here, but I realize that professional training for adults does not exist here.

I am a positive person, but there are days when it’s just hard to feel inspired. I know from experience that when anxiety and negativity start building up like this,  I need to RE-focus and RE-charge. The reality of my life as a working artist is that I am ALWAYS fighting between being patient and accepting of my current place and feeling frustrated, stressed, and stuck in my current place.  This week, my anxious thoughts and emotions started to over-ride my truth, causing me to lose my Peace.

To go back to my truth, I must continue to find a  peaceful balance between all of my goals and desimg_0051ires.  I know that I need to slow myself down and stick to the plan. I have to constantly remind myself that I am doing enough right now with teaching, choreographing, practicing, performing, and working. I cannot do EVERYTHING all at once. Although I’m always excited for more opportunities, I have to start focusing and prioritizing the ones that will  help me reach my ultimate goal. Most importantly, I have to continue to train my mind and spirit as I am training my body. This means, keeping prayer, meditation, and mindfulness a priority each day so that I can live in a state of peace rather than a frantic frenzy.

Spiritual Destiny 


I am more than my physical appearance. I am more than my gifts and talents. I am a living soul and spirit.
I accept that I am a complex being made of mind, body, spirit, and soul. I understand that my greater purpose is to live through each of these dimensions by finding balance and harmony among each part.

You cannot separate your spiritual destiny from your physical journey, Everything is connected.

Season of Change

imageThis Year I can feel that it’s time to shift into a new season. I’m shifting away from survival mode and into Desire. It’s time to start manifesting the life of my dreams.

I’m tired of counting down the days until I can breathe again. I want to enjoy my life, my body, my money, my career, and my journey. The life I desire requires more! More creating, more inspiration, more connection, more expression.

I Give Myself permission to take it to the next level!

I am taking the necessary steps to create the Life I Desire.

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Maintaining Balance

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In one of my last posts, I talked about the challenges I have with finding and maintaining a successful balance in each area of my life. I know that Balance is the key to a happy and successful life so I want to spend more time learning how to achieve it. I am creating a guide that pinpoints my personal goals for balance, the obstacles I face, and solutions for maintaining a healthy balance in each area.

1.Mind Body and Spirit-Balancing time for physical training, rest,and spiritual goals daily

Obstacle-Restless mind, tired body=No sleep

Solution-Quiet the mind before bed, spend more time reading and studying instead of on the computer

 

2.Physical training

Maintaining balance between strength and flexibility

Solution-continue yoga daily!!!

Maintaining physical appearance-skin, hair, etc

Solution-Go to bed earlier and wake up earlier to have more time for grooming, schedule hair appointments ahead of time

 

3.Drinking-balance between enjoying and overindulging

A slight buzz=ok Getting drunk/wasted=Not ok

Obstacle-Getting too excited, self- discipline and accountablility

Solution-Limit the number of drinks per night and how many nights you drink per week/month

 

4.Time-balancing time for work, rest, and  enjoying life

Obstacle-Understanding the difference between pushing yourself and pressuring yourself to do too much at once!

 

Being proactive as you take action but also patient as you are waiting for things to come together

Solution-Learning to plan ahead and prioritize, Balancing short term and long term goals

 

5.Money-Balancing saving and spending

Enjoy your hard earned money, but also save for the future!

Obstacle-inconsistency, impulsiveness

Solution-Create a budget and hold yourself accountable! Check in with Budget daily!

 

6. Friends/relationships-balance between remaining open but unattached

Friendships=ok  Co-Dependence=Not OK!

Obstacle-Becoming dependent in relationships

Solution-Always have “Me Time”, Establish boundaries in the beginning, communicate when you are uncomfortable/unhappy

 

This is a personal guide, but I hope it can help some of you as well. If it does, feel free to let me know!